As I was making the beds this morning and turning down the heat in the bedrooms for the day, I realized something.
I have been a stay-at-home mom for three years. I guess that the official date was about two weeks ago when school started back but yes. Three years. That was when I started my FML from my teaching position, deciding that I wanted to stay home and officially resigning later on that summer.
As I made the beds, folded blankets, and picked up clothes for the laundry, I came to realize that I have settled into a routine of being a SAHM, of caring for our daughter, my husband, our home, and myself (the last is still in process). I am learning to better ask for help and time when I need it (in fact, the grandparents are coming over to spend time with my girl while I run errands out in the snow today). I have settled into the joys of organization, my brand-new family calendar in its place of pride on the side of the fridge (Thank you, Mom! The old one was quite on its last legs.) with everyone’s activities for the month listed out as well as copied onto our family Google calendar, so we can keep track of each other. The bank’s new app is uploaded onto my phone (still need to do this to hubbie’s phone), so we can have access to accounts/amounts whenever we need it. My girl’s first dance class will start in two weeks so she needs to be outfitted for that, naturally.
I think I’ve really settled into this SAHM gig.
Having said that, though, it may end sooner than I anticipate. Elizabeth is three. Preschool looms on the horizon (as soon as we can deal with this potty training nonsense), which means that I will need to/be looking for a new position somewhere. Now that is a frightening thought if I am being completely honest. There are lots of frightening thoughts for me in being a SAHM.
- Am I doing right by my daughter?
- Am I spending enough time with her?
- Am I teaching her the skills (educational and life) that she needs?
- Am I teaching her to be independent?
- Am I unconsciously doing for her what she needs to do for herself?
- Am I teaching her that I am there for her?
- Does she feel loved?
- Does she feel heard?
- Am I giving enough time to my husband?
- Are he and I connecting enough?
- Does he feel heard by me?
- Does he feel loved and appreciated?
- Am I giving enough time to myself?
- Do I feel loved, heard, appreciated?
- Am I connecting with my own heart, soul, and body enough?
- Am I connecting to God’s heart enough?
The worries will abound, if I let them. The worries could drown me, if I let them. The worries could leave me paralyzed with fear, if I let them.
So I won’t.
I will take comfort in the truth that I know what I am doing, even when I don’t. That I am trying my best, even when I fall short. That I am doing much better than I think I am at this SAHM gig.